Boss Clashes: How To Survive Personality Differences
Of all the relationships important to any employee, getting along with your boss is top of the list. This person is key to your career growth, your paycheck, and those all important references needed for the next job. If not a necessity, working well with your boss is a smart step for everyone! Following are some suggestions for turning difficult relationships into better ones.
What is DISC? - A behavioural styles assessment that describes four main styles:
The boss with a “Steadiness” style will tend to focus on maintaining the status quo, reinforcing existing customers’ satisfaction, and avoiding radical shifts. If your style is more Dominance or Influence, you like change, seek new challenges, and view risks as opportunities. These opposite tendencies may cause you to view the boss as wrong or weak, rather than simply different.
Try to realign yourself with the boss’ overall focus and management practices. Either adapt your own needs to the overall work environment preferred by your boss or demonstrate how your needs can be met within the boss’ parameters.
Business impact means describing a work result. “It is hard for me to respond to your spontaneous queries. I don’t want to provide incorrect information that could create problems. If you could give me more time to think through your questions, I could provide more reliable data and help keep us on track.”
Let’s suppose your boss requires detailed monthly reports that you feel are a waste of time. Rather than trying to get the reports eliminated entirely, think of ways you can complete the reports with greater efficiency. This approach sends a message that “I am trying to work with you and accomplish your requests with improved results” rather than an irritating message like “I think these reports are stupid.”
Don’t take it personally that your boss has limited time for your problems. Use your time together wisely and focus on moving forward in your relationship.
Ask yourself how you can save your boss some time, relieve some pressure, or handle a least favored task. Suggest options, shortcuts, or answers your boss hasn’t thought of. Adapt your personality to make your boss’ life easier.
If you can use your skills and behavioural style to balance your boss’ skills andstyle, you will be on your way to replacing a stressful relationship with an outstanding one.
To find out more about howto improve workplace relationships and reslove conflict using
Author: Adapted from the work of Kaye Sullivan, M.A.