Points of You (The Coaching Game) - Purposeful Pause
Written on the 3 May 2013 by Points of You & Talent Tools
Time Requirement: 10 minutes maximum
Framework: Suitable for independent, individual and group work
Pausing isn't easy. In everyday life, we constantly rush to fulfill all our roles, yet there's one role we tend to
at ourselves, away from the automatic patterns that compose our daily routine.
ObjectivesWe highly recommend beginning individual meetings, group gatherings and personal meetings with ourselves –
with a pausing process. Pausing significantly contributes to efficient and profound work as the meeting progresses.
The process creates focus and concentration and substantially neutralises background noises that surround us
every day. Beginning the meeting with a pause process also helps us to optimally exhaust the coaching/therapeutic
potential embodied in the cards.
Furthermore, most of us don’t have any time for ourselves between home and work, children and our personal
relationship, television and sleeping, night and a new day. Pausing allows us to take a breath and create some in-
between time in our clip-like life on the fast lane.
The process1. Since the purpose of the process is a physical and mental pause, we suggest that participants find a spot for
themselves in the room and situate themselves in the position they find most comfortable: sitting up straight,
leaning on the wall, lying down or whatever they feel is comfortable.
2. In order to limit the time frame for the process, we recommend playing a musical piece of 10 minutes maximum,
We also instruct participants to take note of the following three questions:
- What do I physically feel during the process? tiredness, restlessness, muscle strain etc.
- How do I feel? Do I feel good? Not too bad, but not great? A varying range of feelings?
- What am I thinking about? What's bothering or troubling me? What thought remain inside
my head and won't let go? Which thought reoccurs?
We call this point the "thoughts' hunter", meaning focusing on physical aspects, feelings and thoughts that come
up during the process. This is an important tool for creating clarity and focusing on meaningful topics that bother
participants. Therefore, it is an important starting point for the work to be conducted later along the meeting.
4. After the musical piece ends, each participant slowly and calmly returns to his seat.
Ending the process
At the end of the process, it is important to emphasise the qualities included in pausing, since pausing is a tool on
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