Six Ways to Deal With a Difficult Boss
Written on the 18 June 2018 by Adapted from the work of Kaye Sullivan, M.A.
Of all the relationships important to any employee, getting along with your boss is top of the list. Whether we like it or not, your boss is key to your career growth, your pay check, and those all important references needed for the next job. If not a necessity, working well with your boss is a smart step for everyone!
Below are six ways for turning difficult relationships into better ones:
1. Accept your relative roles of power and position
Try and think about what type of personality traits your boss has and how this aligns or conflicts with how you approach things. A good method for assessing this is DISC. DISC is a behavioural styles assessment that describes four main styles:
You can find out here from our previous post how DISC styles can better work together in groups.
The boss with a "Steadiness" style will tend to focus on maintaining the status quo, reinforcing existing customers' satisfaction, and avoiding radical shifts. If your style is more Dominance or Influence, you like change, seek new challenges, and view risks as opportunities. These opposite tendencies may cause you to view the boss as wrong or weak, rather than simply different.
Try to realign yourself with the boss' overall focus and management practices. Either adapt your own needs to the overall work environment preferred by your boss or demonstrate how your needs can be met within the boss' parameters.
An approach response to a manager who gives last minute request might be:
6. Make your differences a strength, not a weakness
In a nutshell:
If you can use your skills and behavioural style to balance your boss' skills and style, you will be on your way to replacing a stressful relationship with an outstanding one.
It's always worthwhile putting yourself in the other person's shoes, understanding where they are coming from and trying to identify why they might be acting in a certain way. Often it has nothing to do with you personally. Rising above challenging workplace relationships can be the key to career development and growth and demonstrates you can work with all types of personalities in all types of situations. Which is not only a workplace skill, but a skill for life.
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If you can use your skills and behavioural style to balance your boss' skills andstyle, you will be on your way to replacing a stressful relationship with an outstanding one.
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Author: Adapted from the work of Kaye Sullivan, M.A.